Bisexuality is slowly coming out of the
closet.`Citadel' talks to the bisexuals trapped and trounced by the vagaries of nature.
While alternative sexuality is itching to throw
aside the wrap, the heterosexual society still treats this subject with disdain. Little
wonder then, that it has not been an easy task for the homosexuals to come out from the
closet. Though the heterosexuals and homosexuals lock horns, they both have a common enemy :
"Bisexuality means getting attracted to any person regardless of the gender,"
defines Arpita Bose, a student of Pune University. "Unfortunately, it is seen in a
much worse light than homosexuality. Even gays look at you with suspicion.
They view it as selling out to the other side,"she says.
According to her, Ashok Row Kavi, the gay activist, is especially well known for his attitude towards
bisexuality. He sees it as a cop out. He accuses us of causing an upheaval in the gay
community. According to him, the bisexuals come in, disrupt the established couples and
return to their heterosexual world.
The gays feel that if anybody is even mildly attracted
to the other sex, they are basically leaving the door open to escape to the other
side." Satpal Singh, a marketing executive, is a secret rebel. "I am leading a
dual life," confesses this much married man and a father of two.
getting married was the biggest mistake of my life. I have always felt strongly against
infidelity. But now the same statements appear so unreal. I want to remain faithful to my
wife but I just can't! The irrepressible urge for the male body beside me, torments me.
But I can't share my feelings with my wife who can't comprehend a hunger of male flesh by
another man," chokes Satpal who has picked up a gigolo from far end of Main Street
many a time to satiate his sexual hunger.
"So many times, I have thought of getting
myself cured, but where do I go? It's like leading a double life." But isn't the
number of people indulging in alternative sexuality shooting up?
According to Arpita, it has more
to do with the familiarity of terms and also the visibility. "People have started being more upfront about their true sexual orientation. The
bitter truth is that human sexuality is like a continuous number line, going from the
positive to the negative, with the two extremes representing gays and the
heterosexuals. It is surprising that very few people belong to these two categories. What
with most of them lurking somewhere in the middle," explains the twenty-five year old
"Inspite of this, people like us are called queer and perverts when the fact
is that every single human being is capable of getting attracted to the same sex.
question is only how many can realise it and accept it!" shoots the firebrand.
"Bisexuality can give you best of both the worlds," laughs Bindiya Sathe, a
budding model whose tryst with carnal pleasure started when she was barely fourteen years old. It
happened on that chilly night, "when my cousin nudged too close to me for
comfort." Somehow she had liked the feel, the warmth and the softness. "I am
having my share of fun with both the sexes," she admits candidly. But whom does she
enjoy being with? "Girls!" is the prompt answer. "I think girls are more
understanding and caring about other's needs. Though I love being with
men too, they usually are a selfish lot."
Bindiya is painfully aware of being caught
in the cross-fire and is determined to set things right for herself.
"I wouldn't like to marry another bisexual," she discloses matter-of-factly.
"You never know from where the competition comes. Once I am married, I'll put my past
behind me. It would be a new beginning." However, Arpita doesn't agree on that score. "To me, marriage is a sacred institution which calls for trust and complete openness with your partner.
One thing which is clearly visible from these heated debates, it is no longer a 'taboo' to talk about your sexuality. A positive sign, isn't it?